Who Says Fairies Aren’t Real??

 “Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it.” -Roald Dahl

A few days ago I was reading a forum thread discussing the topic of Santa, Fairies, and lying to children about “make believe” things. It sparked a lot of thought for me so I decided to write about it.

Growing up, I was taught that Santa wasn’t real. My parents never lied to me about that. They did, however, teach me that Jesus and Satan and all other typical biblical characters were real. They said Fairies weren’t real. I was not allowed to read Fairy tales, or any fictional stories (historical, non magic-y stories were permitted).  When I got older and started having lots of questions and doing research for myself, I discovered that there is no more proof for Christianity than there is for Santa or Fairies, or any other “mythological” creatures. So, what makes something real?

Faith, basically.


If you believe that Jesus died for you and is coming to take you to heaven someday, that is real for you. If you believe that there are Fairies around that we can’t see, that is real for you. Who am I to say what’s real for anyone else! I believe that there is a lot going on that we can’t see.  Most of us don’t believe, and we are too closed to the endless possibilities that exist all around us. The unknown can be frightening.  It is outside the realm of our control. I hated that idea for a while. But then I realized that without the unknown, without letting go, there would be no magic. And, I love magic. (And sparkles).

I believe magic in the world is real. Even if Santa doesn’t bring you presents, even if you never see a Fairy, even if Jesus never appears, there is still magic everywhere, every day.  I like to think that I can be a part of making the world a more magical place by being kind, respecting other people, and helping my children learn these values. Also by having fun, just being silly, playing! Why should life have to be so serious and black and white and certain all the time? Just let go!

When I had my first kid, I told her Santa wasn’t real. By the time she was four, on her own, she believed Santa was real. I had nothing to do with it! Around that same time I became far more ambiguous about my own religious experience so I was able to be open to more possibilities. Truth is subjective, when it comes to unprovable subjects. I talk to my kids about the stories of the original Saint Nick, and how we can be part of the magic of Christmas by helping others who are less fortunate than us. We make Fairy gardens outside, and tiny homes they could live in. Anytime one of the kids lose a tooth, they find a note under their pillow covered with pixie dust, and they know who “helped” the Tooth Fairy put it there, but it’s fun to have a story about it. I read them lots of books with stories and mythical tales from all kinds of cultures and places around the world. When they ask me if Fairies, or Unicorns, or the Tooth Fairy, or Jesus is real, I tell them I don’t know because I haven’t seen them but I don’t see why they might not be. I believe anything is possible. Stories are great ways to learn all kinds of things. Truth can be presented in so many different ways. I think there are valuable lessons to be found in all kinds of “myths”, both new and old.

Don’t you want to live in a world where ideas like Fairies and Santa Claus are reality?

After all, according to quantum physics Santa could actually visit every house in one night, you know.


“Magic is believing in yourself, if you can do that, you can make anything happen.”

-Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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How To Destroy Your Relationship (in 6 Easy Steps)

If you’re in a relationship with a great guy but you just love drama and want to be miserable, all you need to do is follow these six steps and you will be crying and lonely in no time! This is a guaranteed and proven method.

The couple in this picture is clearly way too happy. Not okay.

1. Remember everything rude or annoying your partner ever does. Do not forget it. Do not let him forget it. Say that you forgive him but hold on to it secretly and bring it up during disagreements that have nothing to do with it. Never allow anything nice or romantic he does to make up for his mistakes.

2. Roll your eyes a lot. Sigh at him when he does something stupid, or speaks at all. Interrupt him, especially in front of other people. Never say thank you. Respond to him most often with, “Whatever…”.

3. Never talk about your feelings. If you do, make sure to be overly dramatic by either a.)Getting super angry, yelling and swearing, or b.) Crying hysterically and telling them how mean he is and how broken you feel. Make sure he knows everything is his fault. He’s ruining everything.

4. Tell everyone. Every time your partner does something wrong or something you disagree with, tell all of your friends, and your mom. You will feel so much better when everyone agrees with you about what a jerk he is and how much better you deserve to be treated. Think about leaving and how much better your life would be with someone else. Someone better. Post cryptic statuses about this on social media.

5. Be suspicious, jealous, and controlling. Check his phone regularly. If you see any attractive females on his social media friend lists, stalk them online. If they start interacting with him, send them a nasty message. Anytime he talks to someone who seems attractive or friendly, get angry. If he does this at a social outing, treat him coldly. Your partner is probably cheating on you with anyone he looks at.


6. Punish him. If you don’t like something he did, speak to him sarcastically. Do not hug or kiss him. If he reaches out to you, just stand there. Stare off into space. Keep your arms crossed. DO NOT have sex with him. This will teach him to listen better.

Good luck!

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Garlic Baby Bella Crostini

I randomly got the idea for this recipe today. The experiment went well: it’s delicious! I made it to go alongside stuffed shells with a cabernet marinara sauce, but they’d be a great addition to many main dishes.


Half a package of baby bella mushrooms
4 cloves of garlic
Olive oil
Balsamic vinegar
1 Baguette
Fancy aged parmesan or similar cheese

Chop the mushrooms and garlic finely. Coat with olive oil and balsamic vinegar.
Place on a baking sheet. Broil at 400′ for about 20 minutes, (mixing half way through) or until you’re satisfied with the done-ness.
Slice the baguette. Finely grate the cheese.
When the mushroom garlic mixture is done, top the slices of bread with it. Sprinkle with the grated cheese.
Bake at 400′ for ten minutes.
Serve hot or room temperature.

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tuesday tunes::five

music that inspires me. this is magic!

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mint mocha sugar scrub



2 cups sugar

4 tablespoons cocoa powder

1/4 cup coconut oil

1/4 teaspoon peppermint oil



mix the cocoa powder and sugar thoroughly. add the coconut oil and peppermint oil.  combine well.

put the mix in containers of your choice and enjoy yourself, or give as gifts!

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tuesday tunes::four

music that inspires me. feel it.

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magic monday::three


magic monday


a little piece of my world


no words

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tuesday tunes::two

music that inspires me. who do you think you are?


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magic monday::two

magic monday


a little piece of my world


no words

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banana buckwheat pancakes

pancakes have never been my strong suit. i’d rather make waffles any day. but today my pitifully sick daughter requested pancakes so i figured i’d try some gluten free ones. i just kind of made up my own recipe. that’s how i roll. they turned out so good that both kids were clamoring for more hardly as i’d gotten two more cooked up! so, consider these kid-friendly!


2 cups organic buckwheat flour
2 tablespoons baking powder
4 tablespoons organic sugar
1/2 teaspon cinnamon
2 cups so delicious coconut milk or milk of your choice, water works too
1/4 cup olive oil
1 egg
1 banana, mashed


in a medium large bowl, combine the dry ingredients. add the remaining ingredients, in no particular order. mix well. i know a lot of recipes want you to leave a few lumps but i find that in heavier flour recipes it doesn’t work as well. you could easily add more than one banana as well, if you like. cook in a cast iron skillet on medium heat, flipping as soon as there are bubbles at the edges, and before the edges get a dry appearance.
we like to use pure maple syrup and butter usually on our pancakes, but feel free to experiment! i’ve been known to make a delicious fruit sauce when i’m feeling extra fancy, maybe i’ll post that next time i make it.

i used some cooking spray just to be sure they didn’t stick. whoever invented this new type of aerosol can sprayer is a genius. those other kind were harder to spray, and would break off. i’m easily impressed, maybe. 😉

in other news, today was a super warm day! the kidlets and i spent over two hours outside and i got lots of hooping practice. i’m gettin’ mad skills, yo.

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